It's 2p.m. and Declan just got quiet. I'm holding my breath.
More and more every day a little piece of my desire to know all there is to know about baby sleep gets chipped off by the impossibility of this one bit: 2 to 1 nap transition. I've talked and typed about this monumental event since he turned 13 months. That's when it all started.
We were trucking along merrily for a few weeks with 1hr+ naps at 9am and 1pm and bedtime at 6:15pm, wake up at 7am. It was glorious! I had read about the transition to 1 nap and I had been forewarned about resisting the urge to rush it (which I was determined not to do) and that it was going to be a difficult few weeks or even months, no matter what. I read that most babies don't transition until they are about 15 months old, too, so when his 2nd nap started to shorten at 13 months, I was very confused and panicky. To make sure he didn't get overtired, I moved his bedtime earlier to 5:30. A couple of weeks went by and the 2nd nap was short or nonexistent most days, despite my efforts. I knew it was too early for him to go to one nap, but I joined other moms of 13 month olds on forums asking the same questions that I was.
Now that Declan is 15 months old, I'm back on the boards. Most days he has been refusing his morning nap, or taking it so late that there was no chance for a second nap. Some days he will still take his two naps (like today). I can't help but know this too shall pass, but it doesn't stop me from clamoring to find out what to do.
Do I wake him up if his nap occurs too late in order to protect his next nap or bedtime?
Should I keep offering a morning nap each day and only give him one nap if he refuses the morning one?
Should I just push him to one midday nap from here on out, brace myself, and wait for the dust to settle?
I've had lots of people tell me to push him to one nap. It's not enough, and he's very overtired by bedtime, which makes for a rough night and early wake up.
So our days are filled with catch 22s. I'll probably never find the perfect solution, but it helps to have the mentality of taking each day as it presents itself. And I'm very thankful for an easy going little boy, who's temper doesn't vary a whole lot if he has a bad day of sleep.