Wednesday, March 16, 2011

Staying At Home

So, you have a career and a job that you love.  Not many people can say that, so you should enjoy it.  But now you're pregnant and it's just a matter of time before your life is going to change big time.

I have always known that I will stay home once that first baby comes.  Luckily, Ryan decided in high school that he wanted a wife that would do that.  It worked out for us.  We didn't plan it, but we'll be bringing home a baby in 3 months.  This is happening sooner in my life than I ever expected.  As happy as we have become, we know that my "career" will soon be changing, too.

I do have a job that I love.  There are parts that I am not good at and there are parts that I don't like, but mostly it is an enjoyable challenge for me.  The people I work with are great and after being here for 2 1/2 years I feel like the level of enjoyment I get in working with them has only increased as I have gotten to know them and the job better. 

I hear people talk about how difficult a decision it can be for a woman: career vs. children.  I will miss being in the office and having that interaction, but I am confident and excited about being at home.  With James just 3 months away from arrival, I've had several conversations, both at work and otherwise, about my plans.  Mostly, the feedback is positive and I am always blessed to hear supportive words.  It makes me feel like they understand what is important to me.

I was surprised at first, but I have also had some negative feedback.  Some people tell me that I will get bored and beg to come back to work.  Two people reacted with the attitude of pity, like I was enslaving myself or something?  I really feel like they assume too much.  Really, I'm reaching a level of self-actualization.  I rarely find a greater sense of accomplishment than I get from doing household chores!  I'm a total homebody - I would rather stay in than go out just about any evening.  My social needs are really very low.  A perfect day for me would be spent with the windows open to the breeze, a load of laundry going, kid(s) playing in the yard with a puppy, and working on a creative project I have had on the back burner for a while.

I don't really like filling the stigma of a plain mid-century housewife.  No, it's really not very cool, and I know it makes me an easy target for joking and even some criticism.  Maybe I was born in the wrong decade, but here I am.

Are you ready for a really cheesy mission statement?  (c;

What I long to do is be devoted to maintaining the hearts and bodies of my family.  You may plan on keeping your career post-kids, and I really won't argue against anyone who decides to do that, I can only assume they are doing what they feel cut out to do, just like I am.  It is a good feeling to love what you do!

Now on to something even more exciting for me.  I am incredibly blessed that the company I work for has offered to set me up working part-time from home, even with the likelihood that Ryan and I will be relocating to a different city.  I get to take the parts of my job with me that I love.  I always saw myself dropping work "at long last" once I have kids, but in all truth, I'm so happy I get to keep part of the working world.  I get the best of both.  Again, God, thanks for knowing my heart better than I do and - GOSH - thanks for giving it to me!


  1. Amen! I'm tearing up, honestly. SO happy for you and yes, God is SO good!!! It's incredible how he makes our lives work with the desires of our heart. Wow. :)

  2. YAY! I really like your 'cheesy mission statement' and find myself moving towards that more and more. Haha It is funny how God is raising up women to be mothers. It is a SUPER HIGH CALLING! I am so happy to hear all doors of blessing and provision that have opened :)